My idea of an ideal morning is to wake up and sit at the window sill and enjoy the sunrays that come in thru the window during summers or enojy the cool breeze that blows due to the rains during monsoon. Was sitting and reflecting...do we not miss the beautiful and enjoyable moments of life in our daily routine of work?
I am not against 'work'; it's just that I feel we loose out on the things that we aim to achieve by 'work', just because of work. The current scenario (or an emerging culture) is where the husband and wife both work. They do not see each other during the day, wud call about once or twice to inquire abt the other person's whereabouts, and possibly get time only on weekends to spend time with each other. And that too is a time when they 'rightfully' need some time to rest after the exhaustion of the week. If they have kids, they too are deprived of their parent's presence in their day to day life.
I donno whether there is a solution to the above problem, a woman has equal and good enuf reasons to choose and follow a career path, just as a man does; but does it result in a healthy family?
It's a different thing when people who work, work only to gain satisfaction from the work they do. But if they expect to enjoy the fruits of their labour in their personal life, do they really achieve the material comforts they aim for, and compromise on their emotional needs, at the same time?
Donno..is there a way out of this circle?? Life is full of ironies. We spend our entire lives to earn enuf to buy a comb, but we loose all our hair, by the time we have it!!!
I am not against 'work'; it's just that I feel we loose out on the things that we aim to achieve by 'work', just because of work. The current scenario (or an emerging culture) is where the husband and wife both work. They do not see each other during the day, wud call about once or twice to inquire abt the other person's whereabouts, and possibly get time only on weekends to spend time with each other. And that too is a time when they 'rightfully' need some time to rest after the exhaustion of the week. If they have kids, they too are deprived of their parent's presence in their day to day life.
I donno whether there is a solution to the above problem, a woman has equal and good enuf reasons to choose and follow a career path, just as a man does; but does it result in a healthy family?
It's a different thing when people who work, work only to gain satisfaction from the work they do. But if they expect to enjoy the fruits of their labour in their personal life, do they really achieve the material comforts they aim for, and compromise on their emotional needs, at the same time?
Donno..is there a way out of this circle?? Life is full of ironies. We spend our entire lives to earn enuf to buy a comb, but we loose all our hair, by the time we have it!!!

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> My idea of an ideal morning is to wake up and sit at the window sill and enjoy the sunrays that come in thru the window during summers or enojy the cool breeze that blows due to the rains during monsoon.
I like your the thought of ideal morning.but how about getting up late ? :-p And if its raining I would never get up from my cozy bed....I bet you too wouldn't ;-)
Well, I certainly miss the enjoyable moments of life in our daily routine life...May be I guess we can achieve it by a balance between work and rest... I need to work on that part too :-p
>The current scenario (or an emerging culture) is where the husband and wife both work.
I guess these days both of them work. Just that the motivational factor for both of them may be different. For few its a necessity to earn their livelihood. For few they want to make good savings and may enjoy later in life. For few work signifies individuality. For few they work is life and for few they wanna live lavishly.
I agree kids do get deprive of their parents, marriages may not work out, as the amount of time you spent with your other half is quite less then what he or she needs.. Not work doesn't mean fail but its mean not satisfactory...
> but does it result in a healthy family?
I think it doesn't make a healthy family if both of them are out all day and just show up at dinner table. Kids do need someone. I feel it would be nice if either one could stay at home. But Indian family prospect has been much better as we stay with our parents. There is a family member who makes sure that kid is brought up properly. Grandparents enjoy more with their grand kids and then ne1 else. In a way, though my mother was home I loved being with my grandfather...I totally miss him yaar... Well, once the kid starts school..I feel either one can come home early from work if they wish to work.
Well,I don't mind sitting at home:-)
I m just kiddin yaar..
What do ya say "NAJ"?
>material comforts they aim for, and compromise on their emotional needs, at the same time?
I think you always have to balance between work and family. Work is not life. Family is definitely Life :-)
>Donno..is there a way out of this circle??
Yes! Only people I know who can get out of this game are Priests and Nuns. So what do say? R u IN or OUT?
>Life is full of ironies. We spend our entire lives to earn enuf to buy a comb, but we loose all our hair, by the time we have it!!!
I will agree to this one yaar :-)
You said it ALL.
At some point in life the below lines are always true
"Ek Lamhe Mein Simat Aaya Hai Sadiyon Ka Safar
Zindagi Tej Bahut Tej Chali Ho Jaise"
-AJ
and possibly get time only on weekends to spend time with each other.
I was reading this novel Spouse the truth about marriage, which said...how many times do we see couple travelling in the morning to office, one reading newspaper, while the other busy on phone calls....we fail to see these small small things in life that could make a lot of difference.
and possibly get time only on weekends to spend time with each other.
Thats wht...
We spend our entire lives...
Hahaha...that was funny :)
But true...
Every marriage has its own architecture. It takes two to make any r'ship successful.
We call marriage a sacred institution, but it is also an imperfect human contract!
Suraj.
Interesting Blog, and a very thoughtful post. Somehow i think this question troubles more men than women,and as far as my personal opinion goes,the choice should mostly be left to the wife,and in case she does choose to work,then the other responsibilities should be equally shared by both.Yes,it can be difficult, but it is possible.
SN
We are often asked: "Where do you see yourself 10 yrs down the line"? It is intriguing to ponder the future and the different possibilities that await us, but as single women, we find that we have a significant choice to make in the near future: Do we choose to pursue a family or attain our career aspirations? Can we have both? What does it mean to "have it all"?
I feel that it is critical for each of us to have clarity about our own priorities. In my opinion, how we choose to structure our priorities is what makes the difference between just struggling unhappily through life versus enjoying and loving.
Thnkx for your 2 cents and welcome to ma blog. :-)
The current scenario (or an emerging culture) is where the husband and wife both work. They do not see each other during the day, wud call about once or twice to inquire abt the other person's whereabouts, and possibly get time only on weekends to spend time with each other.....blah blah!!
WHY WORRY WHEN U ARENT MARRIED???
its good to enjoy when ur alone.
Abhishek
its good to enjoy when ur alone.
I dn't agree! I hate to be alone. And how do u njoi by not being in the company of the people who are close to you?
Be optimistic, dude! We live life only once! Y not live it completely?
rebel_on_loose
Interesting Blog
Thnk you!! *All Smiles*
the choice should mostly be left to the wife
Me feels that it's a decision that has to be taken jointly. Both the people involved need to introspect on their respective priorities and make a decision. Domestic responsibilities are a time bomb in many marriages. Marriage usually begins with a willingness of both spouses to share domestic responsibilities.
Yes,it can be difficult, but it is possible.
Bang On.!
Z000nie
Yup! We earn ourselves all the materialistic comforts of life..but in the bargain tend to overlook all the simple things of life, which actually sustains life.
*Sigh*
AJ
how about getting up late ?
Wud love to! My wishlist also speaks of a husband tht wud give me bed-tea!
I bet you too wouldn't ;-)
I wud get up and dance in the rain, on the wet grass, barefoot. Wow! Tht's the way to njoi rains, as per me.
I need to work on that part too :-p
I am sure you wudn't want ur wife to start complaining of u not spending time quality time with her. So pull ur socks and work on it.
Well,I don't mind sitting at home:-)
You think ur wife wud want to tolerate u at home all day??
Family is definitely Life :-)
Ditto!
>Wud love to! My wishlist also speaks of a husband tht wud give me bed-tea!
Just bed-tea? How about some breakfast also :p ?
>I wud get up and dance in the rain, on the wet grass, barefoot. Wow!
Hmmmm....How about singing a duet in the rain along with dancing :-)
>I am sure you wudn't want ur wife to start complaining of u not spending time quality time with her. So pull ur socks and work on it.
She will know very soon. She would complain the otherway..saying pls go to work..don't you have some other work to do :-)
>You think ur wife wud want to tolerate u at home all day??
No choice Memsaab :-)
-AJ
SN
“Winning is the result of having a winner’s mind and a winning positive attitude.
True, genuine and worthy prizes beling to those who have war scars to show. Overcoming trials, tests, tribulations and barriers. There's nuthing sweeter than winning against all odds.
We grieve for what might have been or wish for things to be different - But we forget that this is wat is the meaning of our life and tht's what we deserve.
I am grateful for ths knowledge and understanding that I have gained in recognizing this wonderful gift of life and I bask in its glory and for all the blessings it showers upon me each day, which makes my ordinary and mundane life truly AWESOME. :-)
AJ
Just bed-tea? How about some breakfast also :p ?
Tht wud be the icing on the cake.
Hmmmm....How about singing a duet in the rain along with dancing :-)
Have u heard frogs croaking?? Tht's how I sound when I even 'make' an attempt to sing. I'd stick to the dancing part.
saying pls go to work..don't you have some other work to do :-)
I am sure. Husbands in the house..are nuthing but troublesome.
No choice Memsaab :-)
Tht's the saddest part of marriage. No choices. :-(
>Have u heard frogs croaking??
Not Yet! But soon I will hear a single frog croaking :p
>I am sure. Husbands in the house..are nuthing but troublesome.
This is different kind of trouble then those regular ones :-)
>Tht's the saddest part of marriage. >No choices. :-(
If there are choices that rule will apply for both. What do you say about it?
-AJ
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