Emotionally Stripped.
'V' is inconsolable. Just don't know how to comfort her. My best attempts seem artificial. She is staring at the ground like a ghost.
"Another r'ship ended, " she says.
"Damn, I neva learn from my mistakes. I keep always falling for the wrong guy", she cries out loud.
I give her the answers I've been told, but they lack conviction.
"You always jump into a r'ship". "You attach urself emotionally too soon", I say.
"How else do u love someone"??. "Isn't that the way to love"? she asks.
"That's NOT the only way, 'V'", I tell her.
"Now"?, she looks at me and asks
I have no answers. I am helpless too. What do I tell you? The answers that I know works only for the rest of the world and not for me.
"Where is the right guy"?, she looks at me and asks with red swollen eyes.
"He doesn't exist, V", I tell her. "'Cause there is no "RIGHT" guy"!!
"The concept of "right" and "perfect" is just all in the head.", I add further.
Priorities, shared dreams, the ability to understand and adjust, growing up together, doing things together are the main most important ingredients to a long lasting r'ship. The rest just fall apart.
"Just move on", I told her. That was all I cud advise her.
We live through self-fulfilling prophecies everyday and each moment of our lives. We manifest failure in some form and then hear us say to ourselves, "I knew, this was bound to happen". We can succeed if we sincerely want to. We make our lives a series of reruns and repetions. If we want to, we can make each day a brand new show.
Our lives may have had "more than your share" of trials and tribulations, but is there any point in sitting and sulking? Is it gng to make situations better for you? It is gng to get you out of misery? You have to LET GO! So what if the person you loved dumped you for someone else? So what if he/she neva cared for your feelings? So what if he/she took you for granted? So what if you failed in the past? It's the past.
V, change your expectations, your thoughts. Stop expecting disappointments and let-downs at every corner. Start living each day joyously. Put a smile in your heart, however shaky that smile may be. Don't be afraid of the past or of the future.
Every day is a new day and you have to make it a complete new start.
The present is for you to discover. It's completely upto you. Live it up, babe!
"Another r'ship ended, " she says.
"Damn, I neva learn from my mistakes. I keep always falling for the wrong guy", she cries out loud.
I give her the answers I've been told, but they lack conviction.
"You always jump into a r'ship". "You attach urself emotionally too soon", I say.
"How else do u love someone"??. "Isn't that the way to love"? she asks.
"That's NOT the only way, 'V'", I tell her.
"Now"?, she looks at me and asks
I have no answers. I am helpless too. What do I tell you? The answers that I know works only for the rest of the world and not for me.
"Where is the right guy"?, she looks at me and asks with red swollen eyes.
"He doesn't exist, V", I tell her. "'Cause there is no "RIGHT" guy"!!
"The concept of "right" and "perfect" is just all in the head.", I add further.
Priorities, shared dreams, the ability to understand and adjust, growing up together, doing things together are the main most important ingredients to a long lasting r'ship. The rest just fall apart.
"Just move on", I told her. That was all I cud advise her.
We live through self-fulfilling prophecies everyday and each moment of our lives. We manifest failure in some form and then hear us say to ourselves, "I knew, this was bound to happen". We can succeed if we sincerely want to. We make our lives a series of reruns and repetions. If we want to, we can make each day a brand new show.
Our lives may have had "more than your share" of trials and tribulations, but is there any point in sitting and sulking? Is it gng to make situations better for you? It is gng to get you out of misery? You have to LET GO! So what if the person you loved dumped you for someone else? So what if he/she neva cared for your feelings? So what if he/she took you for granted? So what if you failed in the past? It's the past.
V, change your expectations, your thoughts. Stop expecting disappointments and let-downs at every corner. Start living each day joyously. Put a smile in your heart, however shaky that smile may be. Don't be afraid of the past or of the future.
Every day is a new day and you have to make it a complete new start.
The present is for you to discover. It's completely upto you. Live it up, babe!
posted by Unknown at 10:57 PM
25 Comments:
hi niki..!
sorry cudnt comment on ur last post.....but i must say about it...100% correct ! when u have love in life u enjoy everything and every thing seems just perfect and beautiful..
about todays post....i hope u too follow whatever u said to V...
lotsssss of love n kisses to u!!
Ke Pasa Senorita!
>V, change your expectations, your thoughts. Stop expecting disappointments and let-downs at every corner.
You please do the same yaar...!!!!
Life is too short to sit and cry.
We all have one chance...I believe in enjoying each and every moment of it and making out the most I can..
I know I will never get a second chance as I use to get it in exams :-)
>Put a smile in your heart, however shaky that smile may be.
Smile is the best expression in the world..You are absolutely true...Greeting someone with a smile and receving a smile in return makes you feel different...You feel like world is on your side..It just changes your thoughts...Your blood will increase by 2liters..Don't worry it won't increase weight :-)
>Live it up, babe! <-- Sahi che :-)
Two Thumbs Up!!!!!!
Adios amigo(<--- Doesn't mean goodbye just means bye)
-AJ
"Another r'ship ended, " she says.
if she is emotionally down n ur not able to console her...just tell her 2 adopt my formula...
spend time alone,think....n hopefully things may be right...she might find a solution herself.right??
"The concept of "right" and "perfect" is just all in the head.", I add further.
what u say is wrong....
this concept does exist...atleast thats my opinion.
anyways...u arent online these days,as u used to b earlier?!??
AF
i hope u too follow whatever u said to V...
Have been trying, but have failed miserably. Which is why I mentioned on the post, "There are certain rules/advices that work for the rest of the world but not for me" :-)
But I am not gng to stop trying.!!
AJ
You please do the same yaar...!!!!
Me trying!
Life is too short to sit and cry.
We all have one chance...I believe in enjoying each and every moment of it and making out the most I can..
Yep, Life does not have an undo button. What is over is over. No use crying/cribbing/sobing for something that is already over.
I love the element of surprise that Life offers us time and again. And, me too gng to live it to the fullest.
Smile is the best expression in the world..
A genuine smile from someone just makes ma day.
Your blood will increase by 2liters..
And what do I do with so much blood? I can't even donate it....No use! :-(
Abhishek
I feel being alone wud not do anything good to hear and she'd just end up being more than vulnerable. I think she needs to be in the constant company of friends, relatives and all the people she is close to..so that she can divert her mind rather than just sitting and pondering over the why's/when's/how's of how her r'ship ended.
what u say is wrong....
this concept does exist...atleast thats my opinion.
The definition of "perfect" and "right" is different for different people. For me, a r'ship is all about accepting my partner's indifferences, his imperfect personality, his flaws and faults. It's abt creating the right r'ship!
And gng by what you say, if each person has his/her own set of flaws and faults, how on earth is he perfect then?
anyways...u arent online these days,as u used to b earlier?!??
Have been tied up with work. All ma other frnds have been complaining of the same thing...shall try and get online as much as possible. :-)
Have a nice day.
Last eve I was talking to this gal (non-blogger) who contacted me afta she came across ma blog and then we became good friends. When I met her she was going thru the phase where she literally wanted to be with the guy she was dating..but she knew things were just not working out. And one day, he introduced someone as his new GF and everything collapsed.
Yesterday, she told me about how that incident changed her life. She is now busy in so much activities...undergoing her studies (she is medical student), getting guitar lessons, etc.
People do get insecure about themseleves in life and they need someone to cheer them up. The search for this someone ends up in a relationship, which they think is LOVE...but in reality its not. When they wake up to the real life, it hurts.
It happend to me too.
Solution, stop having expectations and never lower yourself before anyone. and yes Start living each day joyously. Put a smile in your heart, however shaky that smile may be. Don't be afraid of the past or of the future.
You said it Niks!!
Hope things turn out good for V real soon.
Greetz to both you ladies. Take care!!
>Me trying!
You can use all my energy as well...Now you have Twice the positive force which will definitely subside your negative thought process..
"May the Force be with you" <--copied from Star Wars :-)
> No use crying/cribbing/sobing for something that is already over.
Hey there is always beginning after end.. It's just how you see it.. In reality nothing is over...The Saga continues!!!
>I love the element of surprise that Life offers us time and again.
Yeah, It sometimes pretty scary..when I feel like I have lost everything but when I compare with other people I feel quiet lucky..considering people who are handicap they fight their everyday life..I have all parts of the body in good health and it would be worst if I still cried...seeing the african nation where there scarcity of drinking water..I feel quiet lucky...So whenever I feel lil down due to one of the other reason I just think of the people on the otherside who don't even have that luxury to think what I have...
>A genuine smile from someone just makes ma day.
:-):-):-) (<--- wide smile)
>And what do I do with so much blood? I can't even donate it....No use! :-(
Truly speaking I haven't donated blood either......It's among the precious jewel of our body. More the merrier!!!
Why do you say you can't donate it?
O.. yea..u didn't read the post from thankgiving and earlier one also...
Takecare,
-AJ
"Priorities, shared dreams, the ability to understand and adjust, growing up together, doing things together are the main most important ingredients to a long lasting r'ship. The rest just fall apart."
Its true ,all these things are the essence and out of these, understanding is the most imp.If 2 persons understand each other then there will be no point of proving how much a person loves the other one.There will be no need for ny explanations and ny "why" and "how".
I think she needs to be in the constant company of friends.
FRIENDS are of no use in these matters yaar...
Arz000n
She is now busy in so much activities...undergoing her studies (she is medical student), getting guitar lessons, etc.
The collapse of a r'ship can really feel like the end of the world. In situations like these, the only 2 choices you have are: 1. Either you fall apart and 2. Present a new YOU with a dignified and composed face to the world.
You'r friend has made the right choice. Cheers! to her.
The search for this someone ends up in a relationship, which they think is LOVE...but in reality its not. When they wake up to the real life, it hurts.
Z000nie, you are right here. But isn't it the need of every being..to be cared, to be loved, to be hugged, to be understood..etc etc. And for all of the above, we do require that someone special to satisfy those needs. Then why is that NOT called love? Is it 'cause the very base of the r'ship is a NEED?
Donno...
AJ
You can use all my energy as well...
Thnks a ton. I'm sure to come out of it with double energy. :-)
"May the Force be with you"
I have a frnd who used to use the above line as a part of his every outgoing email signature.
Hey there is always beginning after end..
I am working towards a new begining and a brighter future.
The Saga continues!!!
There are certain things that are controllable by us. The saga continues only because we allow it to.
when I feel like I have lost everything but when I compare with other people I feel quiet lucky..
We always feel that our miseries are worst. There are people who've lost more than us, people who live in conditions that we wud dread to even imagine. Yes, we INDEED are very very lucky. Thank you, GOD.
A genuine smile from someone just makes ma day.
:-)
Why do you say you can't donate it?
'Cause I had gone to donate blood once and those guys told me that "I am underweight". Idiot log. How stupid they are!!
dreamz_verity
Very few ppl who are involved in r'ships actually give any importance to understanding. The true test of any r'ship is having the ability to understand your partner and the willingness to overcome difficulties and grow from past mistakes.
Abhishek
FRIENDS are of no use in these matters yaar...
DISAGREE. Infact, friends are the people who can get you outta these kinda situations.
Niks,
True love neva dies. It's the romance that ends in a heartbreak, love is stronger than all of it. True love is really something, it's a pity most people take a lifetime to understand it. Love is not words but behaviour; and people's behaviour is a cruel setback.
--Vijz
Sweetheart,
People not meant for you only leave, the ones who will make good your life, are there for good.
--Amit.H
>Thnks a ton. I'm sure to come out of it with double energy. :-)
My pleasure :-)
>"May the Force be with you"
>I have a frnd who used to use the above line as a part of his every outgoing email signature.
Either he is be bigtime into StarWar movies...or follows Taoism...On similar lines of Jainism and Buddhism...
>I am working towards a new begining and a brighter future.
Nice. I like that :-)
>The saga continues only because we allow it to.
Yeah, but sometimes as u said it not controllable..
>people who live in conditions that we wud dread to even imagine.
Yup..We are lucky enough to get my daily bread and roof above my head..
Parents who are considerate and thoughtful.
>Thank you, GOD.
Is there something like God? Do you believe in it? I think there is no God. There is nothing like creator of universe..
A smile from "you" always makes ma day. :-)
>'Cause I had gone to donate blood once and those guys told me that "I am underweight". Idiot log. How stupid they are!!
Oye..I sincerely Thank those guys who didn't let you donate...What would happens to "me" and this blog and the other ppl who communicate to you if you would dissappear to hospital in order to recuperate for your donation :-p
Idiot log nahin yaar.. Samajdar log hai...ek nahin musibat khadi hot jati ...lene ke dene pad jate :-)
-AJ
Yup...
Everyone wants to have someone in their life who will care for them, n blah blah blah..
but why hurry?
Then why is that NOT called love? Is it 'cause the very base of the r'ship is a NEED?
Just wait for the right person, rather than getting hurt by someone, who for a moment was almost the ONE in your life
But again...how do you identify this ONE from the whole crowd.
I'm still trying to figure that myself...
:)
Take care
NO they done...i dont agree...
anyways,different people have their own ways...so i wudn't like to make u agree...
simple.
Vijz
I completely agree with you.
God’s ability to rebuild our life is more powerful than one person’s ability to destroy it.
Amit:
I have seen people climb out of the heap of broken dreams and get on with the flow because life begets life.
To let go is life’s crucial necessity.
Abhishek:
Life is beautiful, buddy. Just make the most of it.
Z000nie
Just wait for the right person, rather than getting hurt by someone, who for a moment was almost the ONE in your life
Yup. But chances are that THIS person mite neva cross our way. Simply 'cause it was neva meant to be. Or worse that he/she might have come and gone...we just neva realized it!!!
how do you identify this ONE from the whole crowd.
Share the gyaaan with me too, when you find the solution to that.
AJ
Either he is be bigtime into StarWar movies...or follows Taoism...
He's a die-hard fan of Star Movies!! He's not into believing in religion and all that...
dissappear to hospital in order to recuperate for your donation :-p
One day u guys are gng to suffer from Overdose of Niks!! My recuperation time wud give you guys an xtended breaks from me...but JUST temporary! I ain't gonna leave you guys so soon...:-)
> I ain't gonna leave you guys so soon...:-)
That means you gonna leave me :-(
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