Platonic relationships.
For years this matter has left many to ponder and wonder.
A relationship between two people of the opposite sex, where emotions are kept under wraps, passions don't rage, like a river bank; both of them, running parallel, going through all the rough and tumble togther, witnessing, suffering and rejoicing all the pain, sorrow and happiness.
Do relationships like these really exist? Do they stand the test of time? Is it a coverup or an impossibilty? Or it is a comfortable ground where two people form lasting bonds that grow stronger with age? Do you think a man and a woman can connect on a "platonic level" without any side effects?
A relationship between two people of the opposite sex, where emotions are kept under wraps, passions don't rage, like a river bank; both of them, running parallel, going through all the rough and tumble togther, witnessing, suffering and rejoicing all the pain, sorrow and happiness.
Do relationships like these really exist? Do they stand the test of time? Is it a coverup or an impossibilty? Or it is a comfortable ground where two people form lasting bonds that grow stronger with age? Do you think a man and a woman can connect on a "platonic level" without any side effects?
posted by Unknown at 8:53 PM
11 Comments:
Hi Nikita!
You a gemini and an eternal optimist right? whats the confusion here ... I mean i know geminis are almost always confused and it takes them a whole lot of time to actually come out of the confusions but what is it about platonic relationships !
I agree when emotions are kept under wraps and passions are forced not to rage the relationship can not be platonic...
The key word is force ... you can not actually make a realtionship platonic or otherwise... relationships develop into something or they dont... they can be platonic yeah i mean 100% platonic or they can also be all physical and lust based at the other extreme .... but the key word here is extreme...
relationships in general are not at any of these extremes... they may not have a perfect balance but they tend to get to the mean position....
and its the mean position thats most satisfying when you interact with the opposite sex sexually as well as asexually and you are comfortable with both..... this happens too and happens perfectly in compatible long term relationships.... i didnt use the marriage on puspose.... These days its a trend to criticise institutions like marriage... I didnt want that
Dercosyst : The views of platonic relationships differ in various people. It is a prevalent belief that it is simply impossible for a man and a woman to be friends, a relationship of intimacy devoid of sexual connotations. Wherever a friendship between two people of the opposite sex is seen, society makes predictions about how the friendship is doomed to fail.
However, as times change, so do people.The social scene is undergoing a change. People of the opposite sex are getting to know each other, but out of the context of one-on-one relationships, which enables the, to form a strong non-sexual, respectful relationships with one another.
I agree that platonic relationships do exist and can actually work with mutual understanding and without any pretensions.
Amit,
What happens when Another Harry meets Another Sally? Yes, I agree that relationships are made and shaped in ways that we want them to. It has been a norm that women are best friends with other women, men confer the title of best buddy on other men. Claims of "we're just good friends" are almost always greeted with quiet sniggers or statements like, "Ha, we know what that means."
Relations between the genders have now begun to rely more and more on respect and friendship and it is now understood that it is possible for a man and a woman to have a friendship, bereft of any sexual implications.
Although platonic relationships exist, there is always the possibility that the relationship will evolve into something more. But relationships that begin with friendship as their base have been proven to be far more stable than those that do not.
Marriage, indeed is an institution and also an art! It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.It is not only marrying the right partner but also being the right partner...right?
Nikita,
I didnt disagree with you on that... Platonic relationships exist and they do ... All I was saying that when you force a relationships to be platonic many a times it can not be.... I mean Force can not be applied in relationships they evolve as something and when they evolve as something they tend to move towards the most comfortable forms ... purely platonic realationships can be very comfortable for those in it.... but again it has to be naturally that way... force causes a reaction which is very powerful... and thats the reason a relationship in which emotions are kept under wraps will tend to develop into something other than platonic
I would again make clear what i said.... when emotions are KEPT under wraps.... means you have apply an external force to achieve it.... that causes a reaction
harry and sally are fictious characters
Amit,
I completely agree that force cannot be applied in relationships. I feel that timing and chemistry both contribute a great deal to whether a relationship can develop or not. Either you both feel the chemistry or you don't.
I am a great believer that if a relationship is "meant to be," then in time, it will happen.
The people involved in platonic relationships need to be constantly aware because there will always be a cross-over line. If the relationship goes haywire because of emotions being covered and "kept under wraps" and if there is a use of an external force whereby which the relationship takes a turn, then one day a time will come when the excitement will subside and the roller coaster ride will end. The people involved will feel nothingness in the end and in the bargain a friend too will be lost.
Our society does not look at platonic relationships with dignity and respect, and relationships like these may not even be a fashionable trend, but it is a friendship that you can depend on..isn't it?
Wishing a "happier" new year to you, your family and friends.
Hi Nikita,
You really write very well.
Anjali.
Anjali,
Stay tuned. I could say something brilliant at any moment.
Wishing you a very Happy New Year!
yeah I agree on that ... and the fact remains one shouldnt get carried away... emotions are momentary its the will that matters ... one shouldnt let emotions rule a person though at the same time one shouldnt be stone like ... a person has to be a balance.... and if that balance is there ... relationships wouldnt be a cause of worry
Amit,like your candidness, buddy! way to go! :)
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